Conversations about sexual sin happen most often in same-gender circles: men with men, women with women. Recent scandals, however, reveal much more is needed if we are to gain ground against this mighty foe. Erin Straza, Hannah Anderson, and Joe Rigney continue their series in the wake of Ashley Madison by discussing how men and women can begin battling together against sexual sin through honest conversation, bold confession, and amazing grace.

Resources from Joe Rigney: Pure Pleasure 2013

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  1. Thank you for the discussion. The concepts presented are sound. I do believe the practicality of finding a strong accountability partner for a man is a challenge in the average church. Most of this type of accountability takes place in a small group in our church. Thankfully there are good men willing and able (trained) to take a more proactive approach in the lives of others. However, I honestly have never seen a woman take such a proactive approach with this issue in the life of someone she loves. Not that women wouldn’t be willing but rather they are shut out. I think once women are able to center themselves in God in relation to the hurt these actions cause, most women would want to help the man they love in this battle. They however often are not permitted to be the help meet God intends. Sad.

  2. The elephant in the room in my mind is: “How are men’s unhealthy and unrealistic perceptions of women fueling their craving for pornography?” Pornography is about portraying women as two-dimensional caricatures who exist for the pleasure of men, but much of it goes farther into dominating and shaming women, often in horrific ways. Why is this appealing? It seems that if men were more honest with themselves and each other about their sinful attitudes toward women that draw them to porn, perhaps they would have better success in renewing their minds and disarming some of the temptation.

  3. Uh, no. No way in heck would a man talk about that in front of a woman. It would devolve into “repentant” sinners using tales of their sexual woes to gain sympathy or even sex from women that are drawn into them. This isn’t even getting into how women simply do not understand men as much as they think they do, and would give harmful or unrealistic advice.

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