What Grieving People Wish You Knew by Nancy Guthrie, Free for CAPC Members
Nancy Guthrie’s overwhelming message in What Grieving People Wish You Knew is to enter into the awkwardness and difficulty of loving grieving people.
Sarah Bessey has done a unique thing in her book that the whole Church should try a bit more. Interwoven with thoughts on theology, history, and her vision for the future of the Church, Sarah told her story.
Raised in Canada, educated in the Bible Belt, on staff at a church in Texas, and then relocating back to Canada gave Sarah a bit of a unique story. Though she grew up in the Church, she did not grow up in the kitschy church-culture so many of our contemporary couch theologians did. Her experience is not one of “I was this but now I’m enlightened, so now I’m this,” but instead it is a story of roots and wings in healthy ways.
Jesus Feminist is not the tired story of a woman raised in patriarchy and conservative theology who threw off her shackles after a theological awakening. That story is all too familiar and, unfortunately, so often riddled with grinding axes that it is difficult to see the trees for the forest. Sarah grinds no axes, points no fingers, and brings every point of her story to the beautiful complexity that is faith in Christ Jesus. She has woven the gospel through her story and her theology, and this is why I recommend Jesus Feminist.
Primarily I recommend Jesus Feminist to pastors and teachers, men and women who are in positions of influence and whose duties including shepherding people. I recommend it for the sole reason that Sarah’s story is the story of every-woman in some way. Bessey may not share the same path or set of experiences, but she does land on her theology through the lens of both experience and the word of God.
I often wonder if some of our modern theologians have walked through difficult things, because it doesn’t seem to come through in their message. Sermons seem neatly and pragmatically packaged with four points and a promise, even in the more biblically based and gospel-focused crowd. I do not doubt that modern pastors and theologians have experienced difficulties, but we need to hear the reality of these difficulties acknowledged explicitly. If true shepherding is the goal, church leaders should be willing to sit at the table with the people and their stories.
I also recommend Jesus Feminist to women in the Church who come from a more conservative position on gender roles, but who have wrestled with their current roles as women.
For women who have no construct for robust theology or Church history but who feel the constraints of that theology, those constructs can feel suffocating, which leads to women leaving good, healthy churches in search of churches more accommodating to their personal story. What Sarah has done in her book is give permission to women to wrestle with their background, their history, and their present situation. Even though these women may land differently in their gender theology, their story is important and should be considered deeply.
Other women may have a deep theological grasp on complementary gender roles, but may struggle to feel that her ministry as a woman is valid. Jesus Feminist spends copious amounts of time on the descriptive role of women in the Bible and the roles of women in our present lives. From biblical characters to wives and mothers in Sarah’s own life, woven through our histories are strong, vibrant, Jesus-loving women who served in radical and humble ways. Reading these short descriptions I was personally encouraged to engage more fully as a woman, to bring my femininity to the table along with my theology.
Jesus Feminist, contrary to its provocative title and subtitle, is not meant to convince the reader of a particular position on gender roles. Instead it points to the character of God, the purpose of His creation, and the journey He takes His children on toward the fullness of His kingdom. Is there a theological bias in the book? Yes, absolutely. Sarah is an egalitarian and believes in roles for men and women without distinction in the Church. But the book does not terminate on her bias, because her true bias is the name and renown of Christ, and a robust Church filled with all kinds of people fully used by Christ.
If there is a caution to conservative readers, it is this: let us not be so quick to ascribe definitions to words and catch phrases that we miss the deep complexity behind them. Feminism has brought with her many good and right things; she may have left the back door open too long, letting in the draft of culture’s sway, but I think we can agree we are grateful for the breeze of freedom, equality, and voice.
What Jesus Feminist does not do is explore the ways in which modern feminism has taken its toll on the people of Jesus. This could be because Sarah doesn’t believe it has, or it could be because Sarah believes that to do much good there has to be an uncomfortable itch under the hem of the Church’s robes. Jesus Feminist is a fair handling of feminism in the Church, but I think to properly discuss what a Jesus Feminist is, we have to wrestle with feminism’s origins.
This is my only critique of the book. If you’re going to title a book thus, the subject at hand should be handled in its own respect, historical and modern implications included. Otherwise, if what Sarah espouses to be feminism is this Jesus Feminism, count me [nearly] all in.
This piece originally appeared at Sayable.net, and was revised and adapted for publication at Christ and Pop Culture.
Lore Ferguson is a writer whose deepest desire is to adorn the gospel in everything she says and does. She lives in Fort Worth, Texas, and is a covenant member at The Village Church. Lore writes regularly at Sayable.net, and you can follow her on Twitter @loreferguson.
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