As I Recall by Casey Tygrett, Free for CAPC Members
Casey Tygrett encourages us to see that every memory—when we engage it in the presence of Jesus—belongs to our lives, and to our story.
In HBO’s Girls, currently wrapping up its second season, 26 year old writer, director, and actor Lena Dunham offers a refreshing — if sometimes painful to watch — view of female sexuality. Unlike the glossy, airbrushed twentysomethings who headline most sitcoms, Dunham cuts a disheveled, average-sized figure — and she’s not afraid to bare it. In the search for intimacy and connection, Dunham’s Hannah Horvath is willing to try almost anything with almost any specimen of man.
Despite the amount of nudity and sex in the sitcom, I believe Girls actually provides a more honest view of human sexuality than most shows on TV do. The thoughtful answers Dunham gave in an interview with Playboy this week demonstrate what I mean. Asked about how many times Millennials think you can sleep with someone before the relationship is no longer casual, she replied that it’s wrong to expect all women to be able to have casual, meaningless sex:
Millennial men and women could stand to know that not everyone wants just casual affairs, even though there’s a lot of pressure to have sex and not care—and when you’re a woman it’s supposed to be a triumph when you can do that. I try to never push that methodology on Girls. I believe people want to be connected in an intense human way, but it’s getting lost in the shuffle.
Too often, TV shows and movies try to sell us on the idea that sex with a beautiful person will bring happiness and fulfillment. In Girls, Dunham ably exposes that idea for the lie that it is, while admitting that a desire for intimacy is integral to being human.
Frankly, in its desire to encourage purity before marriage, the Church is often complicit with mainstream media in this throning of sex, focusing on purity, modesty, and marriage as an ultimate goal far more than Jesus did. The Church is occasionally just as guilty as television is of allowing porn culture to influence expectations in the marriage bed, too (yes, Mark Driscoll and your “Can We_____?” chapter, I’m looking at you.)
While we should continue to acknowledge the human desire for connection, and to argue against the commodification and objectification of women in media, Dunham is poised to effect change in media’s depictions of sex and gender better than any marriage book, doctoral thesis, or documentary could. She has the ear of a generation who values authenticity, and she’s speaking truth about the ways that hook-up culture fails to satisfy. To be successful, she’s going to need to let her characters grow up a bit, start to make a few mature decisions, and stop the fixated search for sex. If she can do that, she might succeed in changing a whole generation’s view of sex. Dunham’s not perfect, but I, for one, am glad to have her as a voice of my generation.
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